Etiquette

  • Things to know before we meet:

    1. Please present my consideration (100s preferred) in an unsealed envelope in an obvious location within 5 minutes of your arrival so we may enjoy our time together without disrupting the flow. I may discreetly dismiss myself to count it.

      • If we’re meeting in a heavily public area, feel free to place it in a card, or include it in a book or gift I’ve been craving for extra brownie points (;

    2. Practice excellent hygiene. Please shower, brush your teeth & floss directly before our time together. I do all of these things & more so that your experience is pleasant & memorable. I would like the same effort in return.

      • If you are not hygienic upon arrival I will invite you to freshen up

    3. I accept consideration for my time & companionship only. Anything beyond that is only a natural, organic progression between two consenting adults.

    4. My pro-domme services are separate from my companionship encounters. However, I do offer sensual domination to my companions who request in advance.

    5. Please arrive on time - not early or late. I’ve carved out time just for us, and as a woman with a full, beautiful life, I honor my set schedule.

    6. Consent & consideration are important to me. Respect my boundaries and we will have an amazing time together!

  • Things To Know Before We Travel Together

    1. I require a full 7 hours of uninterrupted beauty sleep to show up as my radiant best each day. That means I’ll need my own bedroom for the sleep portion of our night. No need for a separate hotel room—a lovely two-bedroom suite will do just fine.

    2. For dates lasting 24+ hours, I require 2–3 hours of solitude each day to recharge and stay fully present. This quiet time can be split up to flow naturally with our schedule.

    3. Please see considerations page for travel rates. I purchase my own flights, no exceptions.

  • Essential Information To Know Before All Communication

    • I am a Pro-Domme, not a kinky escort. Do not contact Me for domination if you are looking for a sexual, intimate relationship.

    • I arrive to each session fully dressed in latex, leather, or nylon. Do not ask me for nudity. How much, or how little, I wear is at My discretion always.

    • Read My website thoroughly before making contact. I do not like to repeat myself & will grow annoyed if I must do so. Depending on my mood, it’s possible I may not respond at all. If I can tell you made no effort to learn about me prior to contact I will surely ignore you.

    The First Communication

    • The initial contact is exclusively designed to get in touch for the first time and to agree upon a date for the session if there is D/s compatibility. Do not describe your desires using erotic or graphic language. Do not ask me to describe what I will do to you in a session. Be professional and speak to me with respect.

    • If we have never met, there are only two appropriate ways to contact me if you would like to serve at My feet—My website booking form or via email at scarlettvervain@protonmail.com. Those who contact me via phone will be ignored & blocked immediately.

      • My phone line is reserved for My established submissives only. You may contact me via phone once I have granted you such permission.

    • Do not ask Me for services that are on My ‘No’ list (see About Me page)

    • If you have a specific fetish or interest that is not listed on My website, don’t be shy or feel embarrassed. Ask Me, respectfully, if I offer what you desire. I have probably heard it before and maybe—if you’re lucky—I find it interesting as well.

    • I require a 48-hour booking notice for all pro-domme sessions. Plan your first communication accordingly.

    • Know about your BDSM interests, as I will ask you about your likes. Better yet, list your likes and interests in your first email or on the booking form as prompted. If you are new to this world and unsure of your likes, this is understandable. However, I need at least some idea of what you’re into before I will consider meeting with you.

    • Be prepared for Me to ask about your medical history and health concerns. I complete a health intake survey for each new client prior to our first session. As My submissive, your safety and well-being is a top priority to Me.

    • Fill out the booking form as instructed.

      • If your first point of contact is via email, please include the following information: 1) your name, 2) preferred session date, 3) what kinks/desires you’d like to explore during session, 4) desired length of time in session

    Session Rules & Etiquette

    • Present My consideration in cash (100s preferred) in an unsealed envelope in an obvious location within 5 minutes of your arrival

    • Arrive clean (body and mouth), odorless, and in a sober state when you visit Me.

      • If we have an appointment at 6pm, and the last time you showered was 6am, you are no longer clean and must shower again before your arrival.

    • Never, ever arrive to My sessions under the influence of alcohol or drugs. I will dismiss you immediately.

    • Be exactly on time, i.e. don’t be early or late

    • Although gifts are not mandatory they are always a sign of your esteem. If you would like to earn some brownie points, go to the Spoil Me page

    In Between Sessions Etiquette

    • Respect my private life, never ask for my personal information. I will relay the details I want you to know.

    • If you run into Me at a vanilla location and/or event, do not approach Me. Respect & protect My privacy the same way I will respect yours. I will not approach you either in this case.

    • Do not fall in love with me. Respect and accept our relationship as being strictly professional in nature.

    • I do accept review and reflection emails following our session. I love when subs reach out 1-3 days post-session to tell Me what they enjoyed about the session, how they have been impacted since, and why they look forward to serving Me in the future. Praise, reflection, and constructive feedback is always welcome

      • Do not expect Me to respond to the praise/adoration emails. Sometimes I do. Sometimes I don’t. This is My world, you’re simply living in it.

    Personal Slavery

    • Never ask to become My personal slave. I will lead you to that path and present the offer on My own terms, if I am ever convinced that it is suitable for Me.

    • Take into consideration that even if you are My personal slave, it will still be a pay for play relationship. You may not pay for sessions directly, but be aware that you will make financial contributions towards My lifestyle either way.